Don't take words so seriously. Don't distinguish things. This is what i learn from Zhuangzi. Just have a good laugh about what i'm about to say next.

Wandering freely; Distinguishing chio and not chio.

If we see what our sight have delight in seeing, we will grant the object to be beautiful and pleasurable to our sense of sight. Who is a chio bu and who is not a chio bu? Shall we be concern about that? My friend say that he wants a chio bu to be his stead. Does it make sense to say that statement? What kind of chio bu does he meant? Do not distinguish chio and not chio. It cannot be done. Have you not found a same girl to be chio and not chio even though she has not change much physically? I do. Sometimes, she seems chio and sometimes she doesn't. If I cannot be sure about whether a person is chio or not, then how do i know whether she is chio or not? I say it is unneccessary to look for a chio bu stead consciously, for your stead will be chio to you no matter what other thinks. If you have stead, your stead will be chio. So y say i want to find a chio bu stead. If you do not find your stead chio, then you do not delight in seeing your stead. Then what kind of a bf are u?

You may think that i'm speaking nonsense here but can you be sure that i'm speaking nonsense?